What I’ve Learned From Writing 100 Blogs On Executive Function Skills
- Eric Kaufmann
- Jul 11
- 5 min read
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Hi Friend,
Two years ago, I started a weekly newsletter to help neurodivergent adults live more organized and less stressful lives. I had two goals in mind:
Support over 1,000 neurodivergent adults in improving their executive function skills.
Become a better writer.
I was curious if I could stick with something week after week, especially as an introvert with a neurodivergent brain that experiences a lot of self-doubt.
In the past, creative pursuits like photography and playing the piano always started with inspiration and a true feeling of commitment. But, they fizzled out after a month (sometimes just one week).
I would invest money, energy, and time. I would even tell friends about my exciting new hobby! Then, as the interest waned, guilt, regret, and self-hate would kick in.
"Why can't I stick with a new interest like everyone else? What's wrong with me?"
But, over the past two years, I've written every single week!
And after publishing my 100th post, I hit 1,000 subscribers (woohoo!). But honestly, the real win isn’t the number. It’s what I’ve learned about executive function, consistency, and follow-through.
Today, I'm sharing five lessons I didn’t expect to learn, but might help you if you’re working on your executive function skills as a neurodivergent adult.
Let's dive in.
1. Consistency isn’t About Willpower
I used to think consistency meant grinding it out, rain or shine. But, as someone with executive function challenges, what actually helped was creating a system that made it easier to show up.
My system consists of three ingredients: weekly deadlines, accountability, and flexibility.
Sean, our Co-founder, has been an unwavering support in helping me write every single week. We established an agreement: I would send him a draft by Wednesday morning every week. And, in return, he would give me feedback by Friday.
Setting clear agreements with an accountability partner changed everything for me. Now, consistency isn't about showing up for myself. It's about showing up for someone else.
That's way more powerful.
Real-life example:
Maybe it’s not about keeping your house spotless every day. Instead, set a timer for 15 minutes every Sunday, and clean while talking with a friend who’s doing the same thing.
2. Neurodivergence Often Means Traditional Routines Won’t Work
Many of my favorite writers say the same thing: you must write every day. So, I thought I had to do the same. But, for my neurodivergent brain, that level of consistency set me up for failure.
Turns out, I don’t need a rigid routine. Instead, I paid attention to my energy.
I mapped out the days of the week and times of day in which I felt most inspired, motivated, and creative. Now, I plan my writing time around those moments.
Think about this:
For high-energy tasks, energy management is more important than time management. For example, if you struggle to exercise consistently, maybe you don’t need a 6 am routine. Maybe you need a Tuesday night class with a friend who notices if you don’t show up.
3. A Framework Makes Everything Feel Less Overwhelming
One of the most powerful executive function strategies I’ve learned is using frameworks.
Early on, getting started meant staring at the blank screen for hours (seriously). Once I built a framework to follow, the writing process became faster, clearer, and less stressful.
Think about this:
If your evenings feel scattered, try using The Final 15 Framework. It's a simple way to plan and prioritize for tomorrow while intentionally disconnecting from work.
4. Progress Means Letting Go of Perfection
Recently, I read a few of my early newsletters and cringed. My first reaction was the delete them. But, I realized it's actually a sign of growth!
If I hadn't published those early attempts, I wouldn't be where I am today.
I’ve learned that executive function skills develop through doing, not waiting until everything feels perfect.
Think about this:
We’ve all heard the phrase “nobody’s perfect.” It’s easy to say but difficult to internalize, especially for neurodivergent brains. To overcome perfectionism, we can start by redefining success. Ditch ‘crush-it mode’ and aim for what’s realistically good enough.
5. Impostor Syndrome is a Sign to Keep Going
Even after two years of writing, I experience impostor syndrome weekly. My negative self-talk starts every Monday...
Will anyone even read this?
Why am I not better at writing yet?
What if a bunch of people unsubscribe?
I learned that self-doubt is a cue to lean into the difficult task, not back down. It's a sign that I am pushing myself in the right direction.
Think about this:
Everyone, even Maya Angelo, experiences impostor syndrome. Those feelings are never a sign that you are doing something wrong. They're a message that you're growing into the person you're destined to become.
If impostor syndrome is holding you back from reaching your goals, check out my framework for overcoming self-doubt (it's free!).
Final Thoughts on Adult Executive Function Skills
Reaching 1,000 subscribers changed my life in ways I never expected. I learned how to become consistent, the importance of accountability, and how to lean into feelings of self-doubt.
If you’re working on building better habits, routines, or follow-through, especially with a neurodivergent brain, I hope one of these lessons helps you feel less alone.
And truly, thank you for all of the support! Hearing from someone who says, “This helped me get through my Monday,” makes my week.
I promise to continue learning, growing, and showing up for you every week.
In service,
Eric
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About the Author
Eric Kaufmann is an Educational Therapist, Certified Executive Function Coach, and speaker. He is the Co-founder of UpSkill Specialists, an executive function coaching company that helps adults and workplace teams overcome disorganization, procrastination, and productivity roadblocks. Eric is also the founder of Elevate Learning Solutions, an Educational Therapy practice that supports neurodivergent students in becoming independent and confident. Book Eric to speak or lead a workshop.
